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Menachem Bluming Muses: Do Departed Relatives Care About Us?

The Jews had arrived at the border of the Kingdom of Edom and asked for permission to travel through their country. In order to inspire sympathy and understanding from the Edomites, Moshe gave them a bit of the background to their journey:   We are distant relatives, he reminded the Edomites. Our respective ancestors, Yakov and Esau, were brothers. As a nation, we’ve been doing it tough. We were slaves in Egypt and only recently escaped. We’re finally heading towards our promised homeland and it would be much appreciated if you’d agree to allow us safe passage.  In the end, the Edomites denied our request and the Jews were forced to travel the long way around, through the desert. A fascinating teaching of Rashi casts a whole new light on the nature of inter-generational relationships.  In his message to the King of Edom, Moshe relates that “ Our fathers went down to Egypt, and we sojourned in Egypt for a long time, The Egyptians mistreated us and our forefathers.” (Chukas 20:15

Menachem Bluming Muses: How to Explain Death to Children After Grandpa’s Passing

Remember when your little brother was born? After being in your mother's tummy for such a long time, he finally came out to be with you and the family. How exciting. You'd been waiting for so long to meet him and play with him, and then he finally arrived.   Your baby brother was very comfortable inside mummy's tummy, where it's warm and he had everything he needed. But he couldn't stay there forever.  When it was time, he came out to be with you. In a strange way, death is similar to birth. We leave the world we know and enter the great unknown world outside.  All the people who have passed away are in that peaceful and happy place. Just as you were waiting for your brother to come and be with you, the souls of past generations were waiting for your grandfather to join them. Now they are all together. We miss them. But there's nothing to be scared of. Remember you used to talk to your baby brother, even before he was born? He heard you, though he couldn&#

Menachem Bluming Muses: Why Cicadas?

Large swaths of the States of Delaware, Georgia, Illinois, Indiana, Kentucky, Maryland, Michigan, New Jersey, New York, North Carolina, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, Virginia and West Virginia are blanketed by billions of cicadas. If you don’t live in the states, you have no idea what I am talking about but if you live there, they are a big part of your life during these weeks of Spring 2021. After burrowing underground for 17 years the cicadas await their grand exit into the world for a short few weeks to accomplish their mission. What do they do for these few weeks? They mate and bring little cicadas into the world and then they pass away... Maybe what the cicadas are teaching us is to never devalue the magnificent privilege and calling of marriage and welcoming children into this world. For that their entire wait and their entire lifetime becomes worthwhile... Mendel (Menachem) Bluming

Menachem Bluming Muses: We Thrive on Comparisons

The Torah, in the portion of Behaalotechah, speaks of the Jewish People's complaint about the manna in chapter 11 verse 6.   As part of their complaint they said that “there is nothing at all besides this manna before our eyes”. So why is that a complaint? So the only food is manna, why does that not make it a delectable cuisine? How do you know if something is too expensive or not? You compare it. You compare prices, you compare schools that your children get into. You compare summer vacations. Through comparison we know if we are doing well, if not we are never sure.. The Jews complained that they did not feel good about their cuisine because there was nothing else to compare it to, to know if it is really good. Social media has exacerbated that ability and need to compare to what others have rather than finding joy in the gifts that we are given and that often leaves us complaining that whatever we have is not enough. Mendel (Menachem) Bluming