What to do when crave appreciation


I heard a beautiful story from a fellow rabbi:

A husband in his community wakes up at 5:30 AM and runs through his inbox. He sees an email from his wife and the subject is “you mean so much to me” his heart melts... but then he opens it and realizes that he was BCCd by his wife on an email to the housekeeper to whom she was expressing gratitude and he realizes how deeply he craves that expression of appreciation...

So what did he do? What would YOU do with that realization and feeling?  He emailed his wife and the subject was “You mean so much to me” – in the email he expressed how
deeply he loves her and cherishes her and appreciates her. By seeing how much he needed it, he realized that his wife likely craved that expression from him just as much, if not more.

The end of the story is that she gave it back to him in spades!

What a story to live by!

Menachem Mendel Bluming

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